Life moves on

Hi Blogworld 

Well I went to my friends wake and funeral.  I was saddened to learn she had been on many medications and possibly knew this was going to happen.  Her husband told me that she was always forgetting to take her meds.  He is feeling guilty over not reminding her more.  They were having serious financial problems and he thinks she didn't want to burden him telling him her dizzy spells were serious.  At the hospital she kept apologizing to him.  He seems so broken, truly is mourning her.  I was amazed at how good he is doing with the boys.  Shelly let the boys run over her big time and he is not.  But he is also very gentle and helping them express thier grief.  I really didn't expect to see that side of him.  I have talked to him a couple of times this week.  He is arranging counseling for the boys and himself.  He is trying to get a better handle on his son's medical problems.  Shelly handled it and got put off  easily by the doctors.  He wants to push for answers and get Jon back in school.  I am keeping careful account to stay in the right boundaries.  I am realizing what a step in and fix it for others I am.  At work,  I am being tempted to take on way more responsibility than I need to.  I want to do everything for everybody and am wearing myself out quickly.   I talked to my boss about a situation unfolding and asked for her help.   It would involve me working Easter.  Not good, I need to be home with my family.  But involving my boss should keep me from over doing it.  Thanks for listening and I really appreaciate the comments.
Jenny

Feeling like such a hyprocrite

I woke up this morning wanting to start bawling over Shelley.  I feel I shouldn't be feeling like this.  I avoided her.  I wanted to make sure I didn't get put in a position I didn't want to be in.  I feel so guilty.  Should I be?  Wanting to do the right should not be something to feel guilty about.  I didn't want to let things get to where her husband acted out towards me.  She used to babysit my son and while she was at the store I came to pick him up.  I didn't know he was there with the boys.  He answered the door in his underwear. Maybe he would have done that to whoever was at the door but it seems really strange to me.  And once while she was in the tub he called me on the phone and we talked for an hour.  I was folding laundry and didn't realize how long we were on the phone.  He was telling me his lifes story.  I just felt like if things kept going something was going happen.  I did not want to hurt her by having to tell her he made a pass at me.  So I walked away.  Was it the wrong thing? I thought if I prevented there from being anything to tell that was the right thing.  Could I have handle things in a better way.  I thought I did the right thing.  I could really use some feedback.
Jenny

Life is precious

Hi Everyone
I am in shock.  My friend Shelly died suddenly.  She was only 43 and had a stroke.  She was a mom with sons who need her.  I feel weird feeling so lost. We didn't hang out much anymore.  I got the impression her husband was interested in me.  So I put some distance between us.  He didn't do anything. But I tried to spend time with her and he would show up.  So I stopped.  She needed her husband.  And I didn't want to do anything that would cause problems.  But now I feel bad for it.  And I want to go and help him and the boys.  But I don't think that would right.  He is going to need help how do I help and keep it completely above board?  Or is that impossible?  Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Jenny